Sexual Discernment & Energetic Boundaries
Just because I can transmute it doesn’t mean I should take it on.
There’s a misconception floating around—one that says if you’re spiritually strong, emotionally wise, and divinely feminine, then you can handle anyone’s energy. But here's the truth:
Just because I can transmute it doesn’t mean I should take it on.
Sex isn’t just physical—it’s energetic. It’s spiritual. It’s ancestral. It’s cellular.
And when you engage with someone sexually—especially as a woman—you’re not just receiving them into your body.
You’re absorbing their frequency into your field.
The Difference Between Trauma Bonds and Trauma-Aware Bonds
We’ve talked before about trauma bonds—relationships formed around shared pain, chaos, and emotional survival. They feel magnetic, urgent, but rarely safe or sustainable.
Not sure if it’s a trauma bond or a soul-aligned connection?
No judgment—sometimes we all need to go back and get our emotional GED. 😌
Tap in here for the refresher (or the full course):
Are You Bonded by Trauma or Aligned by Growth?
A trauma-aware bond, on the other hand, is built on healing. It’s rooted in personal responsibility, emotional presence, and a mutual commitment to growth.
This distinction doesn’t just show up in conversations and behaviors—it manifests in the energy exchanged during sex.
Because when you engage sexually with someone, you’re not just connecting physically…
You’re merging frequencies.
Check out this song called Tangle by The Hics:
What Sex Actually Is: A Merging of Fields, Frequencies, and Futures
We don’t just merge bodies—we merge auric fields. And science backs this up.
1. Electromagnetic Fields (EMFs): The Aura Has Science Behind It
Every person emits an electromagnetic field—especially the heart, which emits the strongest EMF in the body.
In fact, according to the HeartMath Institute, the heart’s field can be measured several feet outside the body, and it shifts based on our emotions.
Your emotional state isn’t just felt—it’s broadcasted.
So when you come into close contact with someone—especially sexually—your fields begin to merge and communicate.
If their energy is chaotic, shame-ridden, or heavy… it doesn’t stay in their body.
It enters yours.
2. Quantum Entanglement: Why You Can Still Feel Someone After Sex
In quantum physics, entanglement refers to a phenomenon where two particles become so deeply connected that the state of one immediately affects the other—no matter how far apart they are.
Now apply that to sex.
When two people engage in deep intimacy—especially with vulnerability or orgasm—their energies can become tethered on a quantum level.
That’s why you might:
Feel them thinking about you
Dream about them randomly
Get emotionally affected when they’re upset, even if you’re apart
That’s not just nostalgia or soul ties. That’s entanglement.
And unless you clear it with intention, you may remain energetically intertwined.
Check out this song called Away From You by Slenderbodies:
3. Epigenetics: Why Procreation Is Not Just Physical
We often think of procreation in terms of DNA. But epigenetics reveals something deeper—it shows that environmental and emotional states can affect which genes are turned on or off.
That means if you create life with someone vibrating in trauma, shame, or emotional abandonment, your child may inherit more than genes.
They may inherit the unresolved emotional blueprints that neither parent has faced both personally and ANCESTRALLY.
This is why I don’t just look at chemistry—I look at consciousness.
Because the energy we create in isn’t just passed on—it’s lived through.
4. Coherence & Resonance: Why “Vibes” Are Real, Measurable Things
In physics:
Resonance happens when two systems vibrating at similar frequencies amplify one another
Coherence is when waveforms (like heart and brain waves) sync harmoniously
When you're sexually involved with someone:
A coherent connection leaves you feeling balanced, alive, grounded
An incoherent connection leaves you drained, foggy, or emotionally unstable
Sex doesn’t lie. Your nervous system knows what your ego tries to ignore.
And this is also why, after sleeping with someone, you often begin to mirror them in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways.
You might:
Start adopting their mannerisms
Feel drawn to their culture, music, or food
Speak like them, move like them, think like them
Even unconsciously absorb their light and shadow traits
Because sex isn’t just physical—it’s alchemical.
It’s the merging of timelines, cultures, emotional imprints, and ancestral codes.
You don’t just lie with them—you live through them.
And if you’re not conscious, you can lose sight of who you were before the merging began.
From Religion to Revelation: Redefining “Waiting Until Marriage”
I was raised in a Christian home. Like many women, I was taught to “wait until marriage” before having sex.
And while my spiritual walk has evolved, I haven’t thrown out the truth underneath that lesson.
Because now I understand—“waiting until marriage” doesn’t mean a ring or a piece of paper.
It means waiting until divine union.
It means waiting until:
He knows his worth
I know mine
We are both walking in power, purpose, and spiritual responsibility
We aren’t just compatible in pleasure—but in path
True marriage is when two souls become aligned in mission—then choose to share energy consciously.
Discernment Over Dogma: Sex as a Creative Act of Intention
This isn’t about being a virgin.
It’s not about saving the “best parts” of yourself for someone else.
It’s about asking a better question:
What creation is my sexual energy catalyzing?
Because every sexual encounter is a creative act—whether physical life is formed or not.
Before I engage sexually, I ask:
What is the reality of this connection?
What’s my energetic state right now?
What’s his?
If we merge, will this birth healing, expansion, alignment?
Or will it entangle us in cycles, confusion, and spiritual weight?
Whether or not I give birth physically—I am always giving birth spiritually.
And I won’t let my sexual energy create confusion, chaos, or karmic loops.
Sex Taught Me Everything I Needed to Know About Energy
These truths didn’t just come from books or theories—they came from experience.
My body became my teacher. My womb became my witness.
And my spirit remembered things my mind hadn’t yet put into words.
“I Never Had Dreams Until I Had Sex With You”
I didn’t have sex until I was 25, and it was with the man who would become my husband.
One night he looked at me and said:
“I never had dreams until I had sex with you.”
That struck me. Because dreaming has always been a part of who I am.
And it wasn’t just that he started dreaming—he started having dreams that came true.
That was the first time I understood that sex was more than intimacy.
It was activation.
“Sex With You Is Different” — When His High Became My Drain
Later in life, I had a deeply bonded connection with a close friend. We’d been platonic for three years.
The chemistry was real. The friendship was strong. And eventually, we became lovers.
I don’t regret it—we were deeply compatible. But one day, he told me:
“Sex with you is different.”
When I asked what he meant, he said:
“After making love to you, I feel this surge of energy. I feel like I can go out and conquer the world.”
And it made sense. That’s the energy I naturally carry.
But over time, I started to feel drained—spiritually, emotionally, energetically.
Then it clicked.
I wasn’t just absorbing his energy—I was absorbing the energy of the other women he was sleeping with.
Women rooted in lust. Women in pain. Women whose energy was left unresolved.
And while he walked away feeling empowered, I walked away feeling heavy.
Jealousy. Insecurity. Feelings that didn’t belong to me—but had entered my field.
So I cut the sexual tie—not because I didn’t care, but because:
I didn’t sign up to transmute what wasn’t mine.
He Took On My Energy, But I Took On His Emptiness
Another time, I slept with a man who was emotionally shallow—a functioning alcoholic with no spiritual depth.
After we had sex, I was done. My spirit said no.
But what happened next? He changed.
He started asking deeper questions. Started looking for meaning.
He started talking like me.
He took on my energy—but I took on his emptiness.
And I realized—just because someone receives from you doesn’t mean they’re meant to stay.
And it doesn’t mean you owe them more of your light.
Final Reflection: My Womb Is Not a Burial Ground
I do not open my body because I’m lonely.
I do not engage sexually just because I can handle someone’s chaos.
I do not call trauma chemistry.
I do not confuse being needed with being loved.
I want a man who knows who he is—because I know who I am.
I want a man who honors his purpose—because I’m walking in mine.
I want a man who can hold space for my divinity—because I no longer shrink to carry someone else’s pain.
My womb is not a burial ground for unprocessed pain.
It is a portal.
A temple.
A source of power.
And I will only share it with someone whose energy creates life—not spiritual death.
Check out this song Too Good by Moonchild:
With love + discernment,
CancerMystique™
Where sacred energy is protected, not exploited—
and where every exchange is a conscious creation.
So true! And I’m not even talking about people ! that’s how deep it hit! How do I even begin to share that with you?